Science proves that friendships enrich our lives.
In fact research shows, they can affect our health, stress, and good habits.
However, if you have the wrong sort of friends, the effect becomes negative.
And if you’re not careful, you end up nurturing these toxic relationships in your life, without noticing it.
2012 UCLA research proves that, negative social interactions, cause stress, and an increase in blood pressure, and heart rate.
There are many reasons, why we’re pushed into negative friendships with toxic people. And why they can be so hard to escape from.
However, if you’re surrounded by fake friends, it’s essential to learn, how to stand up for yourself.
So how do you know, if your friends are real or fake? And why are fake friends bad for your health, and well-being?
Here are the 10 signs that says, your friends are fake. Let’s find out fake ones.
1. They are selfish.
A little selfishness is normal in someone. But if you’ve noticed, your friends always looking out after their own interest, at the expense of others, that’s a red light. Friends don’t count, how much effort they give into the friendship, but it has to be healthy on both sides.
2. Your relationship with them is conditional.
Fake friends only give you attention, and support, when it’s convenient for them. Otherwise, they won’t waste the energy on you, or others.
Real friends will support you, no matter what, even if it means sacrificing their time or more.
Habeeb Akande says “Fake friends are like shadows: always near you at your brightest moments, but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hour, True friends are like stars, you don’t always see them, but they are always there.”
3. They feed on gossip and drama.
There’s no more obvious sign than this.
Nothing excites fake people than to talk about other people’s misery. They love it, when people have a lot of drama. And they absolutely like to be in the center of it, when it happens.
4. They act weird, when you’re with other people.
Do you notice, if any of your friends act differently, when you’re with other people? Like suddenly they are “nicer” or more innocent, This is a sign of a narcissistic behavior, which most fake friends have.
You shouldn’t be made to feel, like someone is ashamed to be friends with you. And you surely, don’t want to be surrounded with people, whose mood changes erratically.
5. You have to fake things, so they like you.
It’s normal to please the people you love. But if you’re going above and beyond, just so your friends like you, then you know something is wrong.
Don’t try to please these people. Real friends like you, for who you are, and they will never push you to do something, you don’t like to do.
6. They are pathological liars.
Fake friends are liars. You don’t need math to come up with that.
According to psychologist and therapist Perpetua Neo, some friends do this to gain sympathy, or be the center of attention.
Don’t submit yourself to this dilemma. Real friends are always brutally honest to you.
7. Fake friends are extremely manipulative.
A fake friend maneuvers, every situation to their own advantage. And you might think, this has nothing to do with you.
But if your friend makes decisions that are good for them, but bad for you, then you are the one who will suffer in the end. You may as well have no friends.
But don’t be too hard on yourself, Everyone comes across manipulative people at some point.
8. They speak badly of you, when you are not around.
Have you heard, that one of your friends like to talk badly of you, when you’re not in the room? With their propensity for drama, this is not really that surprising.
Real friends wouldn’t do such a thing. Someone who cares about you, will not deliberately make you look bad.
Instead, a real friend will defend you, when someone insults you in their presence.
9. Fake friends are jealous.
Fake friends are easily jealous of you.
They will try to downgrade your achievements, as if they are not that important. And they rarely every give you a genuine compliment.
They will want the same things you have. They may even be, so competitive about it.
“They want to compete with you, even if you’re not competing with them. Even if you’re in a completely different field, they want the same things you do.”
This type of jealousy may be harmless. But at some point, you also want to be surrounded with friends who appreciate your life.
10. You can’t trust them.
When you’ve realized this, that’s how you know someone is a fake friend.
Do you often find yourself keeping secrets from them? Do you deliberately keep parts about your life from them, because you’re afraid, they will do something bad with the information? Are you often afraid, they will damage your other relationships, too?
Fake friends can never be trusted. They sell you out, and don’t give it a second thought. Their first instincts is to protect and think about themselves. They will never put you in consideration. This makes them extremely untrustworthy.
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