Life can be extremely stressful. We face constant day-to-day challenges that add layers of stress to living life in such an already fast-paced and competitive world.
So how do we usually manage?
You probably don’t go a day without at least complaining a few times. In fact, research shows that during an average conversation, we complain to each other at least once every minute.
Repeated complaining fast your brain to make future complaining more likely. Over time, you find it’s easier to be negative than to be positive, regardless of what’s happening around you. Complaining becomes your default behavior, which changes how people perceive you.
Socially, we also like to complain because it’s an easy way to relate to one another.
It’s actually the opposite. Research from Stanford University has shown that complaining releases stress hormones, shrinks the hippocampus -- an area of the brain that’s critical to problem solving and intelligent thought. Damage to the hippocampus is scary, especially when you consider that it’s one of the primary brain areas destroyed by Alzheimer’s.
Alzheimer's disease is the most common cause of dementia — a continuous decline in behavioral, thinking and social skills that disrupts a person's ability to function independently.
In one study, researchers found that happy people complain less. They also looked at the evidence that the happy folks in their study were more mindful. They hypothesize that more cheerful folks are likely to complain more mindfully
when you have something that is truly worth complaining about -- is to engage in solution-oriented complaining. Think of it as complaining with a purpose.
Before complaining, know what outcome you’re looking for. If you can’t identify a purpose.
Start with something positive Before Complaining. For Example before launching into a complaint about poor customer service, you could say something like, “I’ve been a customer for a very long time and have always been thrilled with your service...”
Be specific. Just address the current situation and be as specific as possible. Instead of saying, “Your employee was rude to me,” describe specifically what the employee did that seemed rude.
Next Time when you complain about your food you have to eat, remember. Someone doesn't know where next meal will come from!
Next time when you complain about your partner/friend, remember that someone is single/lonely!
Next Time when you Complain about your job ,salary, profile. Remember someone out there is doing for less & even don’t have a job!
Next Time when you complain about others mistake, Remember we all do mistakes!
Complain only in instances where you believe it will affect real and positive change.
Don’t Complain About Things that You Are Not Willing to Change.
Simply ask yourself when you open your mouth: Would you rather complain or be happy?
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